The Power of Intuition

July 6, 2012

This week’s featured encore is the debut broadcast of Lydia Mattison’s Empowering Space BlogTalkRadio show where I had the great honor of being her very first guest. Lydia’s art is in using guidance cards with coaching. It’s a call-in program so that you can experience the empowerment of coaching in this interesting format.

Despite some minor call-in challenges in the first few moments of the show, here’s what Lydia had to say about the event: “What a riot, but great fun!” It was fun, we had a great time together, while discussing a very enlightening topic.

Lydia and I talked about the power of intuition and ways to strengthen and develop your intuitive muscle. Listen to The Power of Intuition BlogTalkRadio interview here. Enjoy!

Who inspires me?

Synchronicity is one way that intuition appears in my life. I was working 60-70 hours a week in estate planning and I wanted to get out but I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I met up with this woman who really inspired me. She was a multi-millionaire, very free, a beautiful charitable person. We were at dinner one night and she looked across the table at me and she said, “The talk we had the day before gave me more inspiration than the entire week I spent at Deepak Chopra’s center” – which by the way costs $10,000. I thought to myself, “Wow, one dinner with me = $10,000!” It was so inspring to me I thought, “I can really do this!” I’ve had many mentors along the way. Another person who inspires me and has mentored me is former International Coach Academy CEO, Bronwyn Bowery-Ireland. What an amazing leader and inspiration. Bronwyn can sense what’s going on. She’ll ask these questions and I’m not even sure where the questions are coming from – those are intuitive questions, they’re spot on, and they cause a shift in me.

My “Twilight Zone” intuition experience

A few years ago, I was spending New Year’s in Chicago with my sister. One of her girlfriends came to the house and we were having a nice dinner relaxing and chatting. All of a sudden I got this really strange idea in my mind and I said, “You know, Kathy, I think you’re going to leave your job in the coming year.” She said, “Oh I don’t think so, my daughter’s in college…” and while she was somewhat unhappy in her job, it was a good job, it paid well, there was no apparent reason that she was going to leave. So she was saying to me, “I think you’re wrong Karen, even though I think you’re usually so right. But if I were to leave my job, what date do you think would that be?” I told her not past March. Wouldn’t you know, on April 1st I got a call from my sister’s cell, “Kathy has something she wants to tell you!” Then Kathy got on the phone, “Yesterday was my last day at my job. I totally forgot about our conversation until your sister reminded me just now.” This is one of those times when I had a twilight zone intuitive experience!

What is intuition?

To me intuition is a gut-level feeling. I really am a subscriber to vibrational energy. We are all balls of energy. I can feel that something’s either totally right, or not right. BOOM, you know it. Or if I meet somebody and everything looks perfect, but if I get this weird feeling that something’s not quite right, and it doesn’t even come with a thought. There’s something coming through me that’s outside of my normal cognition. I know my brain is very strong, I really know that. I know it’s not coming from my brain. There’s something else that’s giving me information. Intuition is one of the greatest gifts of my life. Growing up, I was getting all these intuitive impressions and I didn’t know what to do with them. At first I totally discounted my intuition. I’d approach it empirically. If I can’t see it-taste it-touch it-smell it, then it’s not true. Here’s the funny thing that happened to me though…when my friends got in trouble, when they had decisions to make, when anybody wanted to do anything, they’d always call me, “What do you think I should do?” This was before I was a coach, before I knew not to give anybody the answers, “go here, go there, do that.” They’d come back for the next thing, because it worked. I was the only one not listening to me. Finally there was this AHA moment that everybody’s asking me these questions and I’m not listening to my own answers. You hear things like, “Let’s give this person a second chance.” Or, “Don’t go by your first impression, get to know somebody.” My first impression is my intuition and it’s usually right!

Why don’t we trust our intuition?

For me I had never been taught. Intuition is on the continuum of psychic power. I’ve heard a story about when psychic Sylvia Browne was a young girl. She was sitting at the dinner table and she had a disturbing vision where she saw one of her grandmothers as a skeleton, all her flesh melting off. And a week later that grandmother died. And she was so afraid because she thought that she had caused her grandmother to die by seeing her that way. Sylvia’s other grandmother had a high intuition and said, “Look you didn’t cause it, you just saw that it was going to happen.” And her grandmother took her under her wing and nurtured her and helped her understand the power she had and how to use it. I always go back to that story because I didn’t have anyone in my life that was ahead of me as a mentor until I was well into my adulthood. I learned to trust myself on the fly. For example my grad school roommate would tease me that every time I’d say, “I wonder how so and so is doing,” they would call me that night. I wasn’t even aware I was doing these things till she pointed them out to me. And then I started listening. I got a thought, I started listening, and things started happening. That’s how I knew.

As Lydia illuminated during our interview, every single human being has intuition. She explained, the reason why it’s important in coaching is because we believe every person has the answers to their own questions within them. It’s very important to help our clients learn to develop their intuition and to trust what’s coming up for them. It’s the questions that help us uncover more about ourselves. To expand yourself, ask new questions that will take you in new directions.

There’s another part to intuition that’s really important. There’s something about allowing, relaxing, surrendering, letting go…there’s something that happens when I let go and I’m in a more allowing space where the intuitive hits come up a lot easier. I can really relate to using the Doreen Virtue Goddess Cards and Cheryl Richardson’s cards. I use these cards as “an aid to the intuition of the uninitiated.” I usually take a tropical trip with my sister every year. She works with a lot of high achievers in mortgage lending and these guys are really “in their minds,” but they’re very intuitive because they’re in sales. They use their intuition, even though they don’t talk about it much. I would be with this group and my sister would say, “Karen will do these readings for everybody.” So I would take the deck of cards, shuffle them, be by the pool and everyone’s having some margaritas. I’d say, “Put 3 cards facedown and ask a question you want a bit more insight on.” All the time they thought I’d be reading these cards. I’d say, “Turn over the cards, ok that’s the current situation. This card says strength. What does that mean to you about your current situation?” And they’ll talk back with all this stuff and I’ll just repeat back what I’ve heard. They think that I’m really wise. They don’t even realize. It puts them in an allowing state. There’s no resistance. It’s fun, it’s easy, and they really believe that I’m doing this. It puts them in a place where they say what they’re going to say and they can hear their intuition.

How can we distinguish authentic intuition from vivid imagination?

Let’s say a person is in front of me and they’re smiling at me. I can look into their eyes and I can see if it’s a genuine and authentic smile or if it’s not. If I get a feeling, an intuition, a symbol or if a thought comes into my head, there’s a certain feeling that comes along with it, it’s intuition. The only way I know that is through the years I’ve learned to distinguish between the two. I’d watch the things that played out, and I learned to notice that my intuition has a certain quality of energy with which it comes to me. If somebody gives me a gift out of love or out of wanting something from me, it can be the same exact gift or given in the exact same manner, but there’s a feeling that goes along with it that I know the difference.

Exercise to develop your intuition:

Write a love letter to yourself. You will be amazed at what you uncover about yourself!

Lydia’s online radio show, Empowering Space – Your Hour of Power is a wonderful program designed to support people in making powerful changes in their lives and create the life they truly desire. I’d like to acknowledge Lydia for being a fabulous host!

I hope you receive as much joy from listening to this interview as I did in giving it. I know that its contents will serve you well.


Seeking Balance, with Ease and Joy

June 30, 2012

In this podcast I was interviewed by Susan Merz-Anderson at Inspiring-Self-Improvement.com  who inspires and empowers her clients to create more love, joy, fun and freedom in their lives.

Life Coach Susan asked me questions revolving around relationships, which are a very key part of life for each of us. Listen to the Ease and Joy podcast here. Enjoy!

Can you tell me how you take care of yourself before you take care of others?

The self-care piece of my life is very, very big. I learned a while ago my ability to be generous and to support others is contingent on my own self-care. Sleep is a big thing for me – I get my proper rest. For me, lack of sleep is like kryptonite to Superman. And doing whatever is healthy for me, such as proper eating. I’m not as consistent with exercise but I acknowledge that’s a way I could take even better care of myself. Honestly, my dishes are done before I go into coaching. There’s nothing in the back of my mind since I’ve de-cluttered my environment. From a spiritual and emotional perspective, I make sure I’m doing my own self development. I’ll spend 30 minutes to an hour a day, such as listening to brain wave in training CDs, listening to Abraham-Hicks CDs, doing a visualization with myself, or having a coaching session. Whatever it is on that particular day that appeals to me and feels like an inspired action. Once I do that, then I can be more available for others.

How do you ensure or keep the balance between family, work and social parts of your life?

I really look at how I can keep from getting into that overwhelm. I do everything I can to keep myself really healthy and happy and in a position to honor my commitments. Then as things do happen, I do readjust as needed. I’ll make changes, back out of things, or just stop what I’m doing. By the way, I’m a recovering “Type A.” When I was in business years ago and when I made a commitment, there was no way I wasn’t going to make it happen. I would just push through whatever it took. And now I don’t do that anymore. From my heart and soul I make a phone call and say, “Listen, I’m just not aligned with this right now. I’ve had a very tough week. Is there any way we can reschedule?” Renegotiating those commitments every once in a while. There are some times when my business is really busy, when I don’t see people for weeks at a time. And then sometimes things open up a little bit and I’ll start reaching out. I’m very lucky my friends will say, “Come on down!” I get a lot of invitations when people say, “If you’re up for it we’d love to have you. If not, that’s fine.” They keep sending me invitations, so that’s a good thing, too. 😉

I’m really honest about what’s going on with me (usually in the most gracious manner possible, but I do tear my hair out on the rare occasion, LOL), which helps to let people know how they can support me. Before I came into coaching, my friends and I would talk about problems and how we can solve them. Since I’ve come into coaching, now we talk about what’s working in our lives. We talk about our appreciation. We find a lot of joy. These friendships just fill me up. We’re not always talking about how we can improve ourselves. We do improve a lot, but it’s from a positive focus viewpoint.

What do you do when you experience parts of running your business that you find you don’t really want to do?

My mantra is, “Success with Ease and Joy.” When I first started coaching, I didn’t want to get spend money right away in my fledgling business. I wanted to do a lot of it by myself. So if there was a task I didn’t like to do, I’d ask myself, “Is there any way I could make this more fun? Is there any way I could align with wanting to do it, can I tweak this somehow?” For example I had been a financial planner and I was tired of numbers. So when it came time to do my taxes, I found myself experiencing this dread energy. But as I began to go through my files, I was delighted to recall everybody I took to lunch, all the trips I made, and all the training I got, and thought this is kind of fun looking over the year of what I’ve done. I was starting to get excited about it and connect with it in a different way.

What tools do you use when you start feeling overwhelm or over busy in your coaching business?

I say a prayer, “I don’t really want to do this. Please show me a way I can align with this, or bring me somebody, or have me read a paragraph in a book that gives me the information I need, so that I can find a way that this can be done easily.” I like to use the Abraham-Hicks Placemat Process. I write the things I like to do on my to-do list. And on the other side of my paper, I write the things I would like to delegate to the Universe. I have a To-DO list and a Ta-DA list! I’ll say here are the things I’m really, really excited about doing and so I’m going to do these today. Here are the things I’m not as excited about doing and so I’ll just leave those to synchronicity to see if something happens that can help me. Of course if it has to be done and I’m not aligned with it, I’ll go the old fashioned route and just do it. 🙂  But there are very few of those left.

Can you share with us your tips for living in extreme joy and ease?

Know my values, my purpose and what I’m really about in this world. Know what brings me extreme joy and what’s really easy for me. Get a coach for support!

People may not even know what brings them joy. When I first came into coaching, it was a process for me to find out what brought me joy and what was easy. I was smart, so I could figure out how to do a lot of stuff. So I wasn’t really sure if it was going to be easy or not; it almost didn’t matter! My question before was could I do it or not? Well, I could do a lot of stuff! So now I know myself, what really brings me joy, what makes things easy for me.

I could not do what I do if I didn’t have coaching to help me out. Maybe you’re saying to yourself, “I can’t afford a coach.” If you’re a student, exchange with someone in your class. Beg, borrow, whatever has to happen to make sure you receive coaching. Join a group coaching program. Coaching is so helpful to me. Coaching is where I clear out my gremlins. Coaching is where hesitations and doubts first appear, and I can release them before they become big. If I don’t have coaching, it is so hard for me to go into ease and joy because then I’m on the fly, I’m in my own little world, and I’m not really allowing all the gremlins and all of that stuff to be cleared. I can’t afford not to have a coach.

How do you tend to self-care, relationship-tending, and balance? We would love to share your stories below!


Are you seeing the forest or the trees?

July 1, 2011

I had a very productive VIP day at my home just one week ago with an amazing group of coaches who are bringing love and transformation to businesses and organizations.  The women in this group are beautiful and talented, and all very accomplished, with advanced degrees (2 have their PhD’s and one is working on hers).

And as smart as they are, their answer to one of the first questions I asked them astounded me.  When I asked them their intentions for the day, they all had some very specific and tangible outcomes that they wanted to walk away with.  Everything that they wanted was very do-able.

What surprised me was that my intention list for them was much longer and robust (and just as do-able).  In fact, all of our intentions for the day were met easily.  And there was lots of laughter and connection in the process.

It got me thinking about the metaphor of seeing the forest for the trees.   When it comes to my own business, it is easy for me to see the trees that are in front of me, and to overlook those that are further away.  And it was the same for this wonderful team.  They could see what was next:  the trees closest to them.  Yet, as their coach, I could anticipate what was beyond that: the trees that were further away in the forest.  And I could prepare them for what was coming up.

This is the value of coaching.  My own coach asks me questions and supports me to look beyond where I am seeing to what is up ahead that I have not thought about yet.  She prepares me for what I may have not anticipated, but is sure to come.

So, here is my challenge to you.   If you are working with a coach, ask her what her intentions are for you.  You may be surprised.  The answer may take you to a place that is beyond where you can even imagine now.

And, if you don’t to have a coach to work with, send an email to info@karencappello.com and request an appointment for a complimentary strategy session.  I promise I will share my intentions for you with you, even after that first session.  And I bet that you may be surprised at what some of them might be.  🙂

Wishing you a most wonderful week!

Love and Great Joy,

Karen


It brought me to tears!

May 17, 2011

I am so grateful for my clients!  Their actions and results inspire me, and feed my soul. I cannot imagine a better life than to be able to support coaches toward ‘living the dream.”  I want to share with you a testimonial I received yesterday from a magnificent coach that literally brought me to tears.

I am sharing it with you because when one coach has a success, it raises the rest of us up, too.  I hope the story of this very courageous coach inspires you to achieve these kinds of results in your business.

“Before I started working with Karen, I was almost on the verge of giving up my business.  I had become so discouraged from my lack of success after being in business for almost 5 years, it just didn’t feel worth all the effort and hard work anymore!

What impressed me most when I first started working with Karen was her incredibly generosity, intuitiveness and amazing ability to easily and effortlessly help me get back on track with my business (AND making more money!!) in a way that felt joyful! 

Karen’s ability to ease my feelings of discouragement and disappointment while gracefully moving me towards inspiration and motivation felt effortless.

I had previously invested thousands and thousands of dollars in programs and seminars to get my business off the ground and making money, and NOTHING came close to the results I had from working with Karen!

I am so incredibly grateful for Karen’s support and guidance.  As a result of having worked with her, I’ve doubled my income and have a business that brings me so much joy, I can’t wait to get out of bed in the morning.  Nothing in my business feels like work anymore because I’m having so much fun!

And amazingly, that fun and joy I’m feeling has translated into a LOT more money.  I’m working with people I love doing the work I love to do and every day I feel blessed.  None of this would have been possible without the support and guidance I received from Karen’s coaching.

If I could say one thing, it would be if you’re in business to make money, live your joy and love what you do, do NOT hesitate for a moment to work with Karen.  She will effortlessly guide you to exactly where you want to be in your business and make it fun in the process!

Karen, I LOVE YOU!!!  And am grateful every day for your incredible coaching!!!  It produced amazing results in both my life AND my business!!!

-Dawn Allen, http://www.DawnCarylAllen.com”

I am so honored and humbled by these words.  And I want to say thank you to Magnificent Coach Dawn for inspiring all of us by joyfully and successfully living her dream!

Wishing you a most wonderful day!

Love and Great Joy,

Karen

P.S.  I’d love to help you live your dream (and double your income with ease and joy), too.  To find out how we could work together, send an email to info@karencappello.com.  You will be glad you did!


Virtual luxury at its finest!

May 9, 2011

I must admit – I am really into luxury!  I love to get my mani/pedis and massages on a regular basis.  I love to have meals prepared exactly the way I like them at my favorite restaurants.  I adore flying first class.  Whenever I visit any of my friends, they know that we are going to spend at least one day at the spa.

And this idea of luxury has extended to my own business.  I have created my website as a spa-type experience, with lots of space and a feel of luxury.  I have not only offered a complimentary e-course; I also offer complimentary podcast recordings on topics that relate to coaching practice development with a spiritual twist.

During my private coaching sessions, I offer luxurious listening to my clients.  They also have the luxury of accessing my very powerful intuition, which is worth its weight in gold (or should I say ‘platinum’).  In my e-coaching program, there is the luxury of unlimited questions and answers until the client has received what is needed from each and every module.

Yet I found that there was one place in my business that was not luxurious.  I did not have a clear VIP day offering that would both catapult my clients quickly to their next level, and give them a luxury experience.

So I designed an offer, and the rest is history!  Here is a picture of the flowers I sent a recent VIP session client, just last week.

And here is what she said:  “I decided to invest in a VIP session with Karen because I felt lost in my business.  Each day was going by, and my business was not growing.  I had lots of different ideas, and yet I did not know how to bring them together into a concrete plan.

After my VIP session, I feel confident that I am on the right path to achieving my dream.  I got rid of blocking thoughts that have held me back.  And now I have a written plan that I connect with naturally, with a foundation that is spiritually based.  Thank you, Karen!”

Here is my challenge to you.  Add one new luxury experience to your repertoire for your clients this week.  What luxurious experiences are you already offering to your clients?  What are some others you could be offering and have not yet designed?

And, if you want to have a coach to work with you putting together your luxurious offer, send an email to info@karencappello.com right now and ask for an application for a strategy session to help you.  I would love to support you on that.

Wishing you a most wonderful week!

Love and Great Joy,

Karen


Develop your signature message!

April 11, 2011

Each of us has a unique and inspiring message to bring to the world. It is written deep in our hearts, and it is as natural to us as breathing. Often we are not even aware of this message. Yet it is aware of us.

This message is the core theme of our stories. It is present in every interaction we have. It is the underlying driver of our life.  This message is what we are compelled to tell the world about.

I listen to so many new coaches who put a lot of pressure on themselves to determine the tag line for their business or the name of their coaching company.  They wonder what they will talk about when they do speaking presentations.  They talk about ‘finding’ their topic, or ‘figuring out’ their tagline.

I know how it feels, because when I began my business, I felt the same way.  I was so worried about printing up business cards, or doing my website, and I put pressure on myself to get my message ‘exactly right.’  And then I had an epiphany.

I realized that I could wait for my message.  I saw the title of a book that said “That which you are seeking is also seeking you.”  So I thought I would allow my message to find me.  And, when I took the pressure off of myself, my message came through very easily.

In fact, one of the early taglines of my business “Zero to momentum” came about in a coaching session as my coach repeated the phrase back to me.  And I realized that it is pressure, the perfectionism, fear, or any number of emotions that cause resistance that kept me from hearing the message that was written in my heart.

I also had the experience with a client recently, who was a very intelligent and accomplished executive coach.  He wanted a title for his signature speech, and as he was quoting me a phrase that his friend used to describe him, I heard a great speech title.  I repeated it back to him, and he was off and running.

So, if you want to hear your message more clearly, you can sit quietly, release resistance, and wait for your message.  You can bring the question into coaching, where your coach will be able to listen for it from a place of non-resistance.  You can even ask those around you to reflect back what phrases you say often, or what wisdom you have offered them.

The most important thing you can do is to use your coaching tools to help you release resistance, and your message will show up.  It has to, as it is with you all the time.

And, if you want to have a coach to work with you on receiving your signature message, I would love to support you on that.   Here’s how:  http://www.fillyourpracticenow.com.

The topic for next week will be Create Your Ideal Business.  Stay tuned…

Wishing you a most wonderful week!

Love and Great Joy,

Karen


Women, Wonderful Women

March 3, 2010

It’s March. That means it must be Women’s History Month – and that’s our theme for this month’s Be Inspired Now messages.

So many women have spent time here on earth; and every single one of them contributed greatly to enriching the human condition. In ways large and small, women bring love, light, compassion, companionship, problem-solving, and brilliant thinking.

I’ve selected a video for this first blog post. I enjoyed it, and I hope you do too. View it by clicking on the image below:

Before I leave you, I’d like to share a witticism from Erma Bombeck. It’s witty, and quite wise.

“Seize the moment. Remember all those women on the ‘Titanic’ who waved off the dessert cart.”

For those of you unfamiliar with her, Erma was born just before the Great Depression, and worked as a journalist. She then interrupted her career for college and then, after marriage, leaving the work force when her first child was born. Eleven years later, Erma Bombeck began a weekly humor column, focusing on the life of a suburban family. It soon became twice weekly, later three times; by 1968 it was syndicated in 200 newspapers and by the late 1970s in over 800. What a prolific, funny and insightful writer!
Love and Great Joy,

Karen

P.S. If, after watching the video, you find yourself curious about who these women are – check the posts from the video’s creator – she gives fascinating details on the women she selected in this presentation.